A WESTBURY couple have shared their story of living with dementia in support of Alzheimer’s Support’s festive appeal.
The new appeal is calling on everyone in Wiltshire to remember people living with the illness during the festive season and beyond.
The local charity says, “Christmas is a wonderful time for memories, but for people with dementia it can be lonely and challenging.
“The number of people being referred to Alzheimer’s Support rose 20 per cent in 2020-21 due to increased social isolation and disruption of everyday routines. The charity supported families throughout the pandemic, often when other services weren’t available and its day clubs, dementia advisers, support workers and community groups make a real difference to people’s lives.”
Former policeman and Westbury resident Duncan Baxter was angry and in shock when he was diagnosed with dementia three years ago. He said, “I knew what dementia could look like and that wasn’t me. So it was easier not to do much about it.”
His wife Lyn added, “It was difficult at first. Duncan’s father had had Alzheimer’s Disease and he said he didn’t want to end up like him.”
With no family close by, Lyn was finding her caring role challenging. However, as Duncan found out more about the illness and gradually got to know Alzheimer’s Support staff, he decided to give the Old Silk Works day club in Warminster a go.
“When I came to the club I was treated with such understanding and kindness,” said Duncan. “I saw others who were much further along and they were treated the same. I realised then there wasn’t anything to be frightened of as I would be treated like that too.
“It has changed how I feel about dementia and it has changed my life.
“I have never felt so comfortable as when I’m in the club and couldn’t be happier there. The love bounces off the walls and I really look forward to going. I lead a weekly quiz now and I prepare for that at home so the club is with me even when I’m not there.”
Meanwhile Lyn has made new friends at one of the charity’s group for carers. “It’s been my lifesaver and I’ve learned so much from other carers about Duncan’s illness,” said Lyn. “I now understand more about dementia and don’t take things so personally. All the girls who work at the Old Silk Works said I can ring them when I need to as well which really helps.
“Since joining the group I don’t feel so alone and I’ve realised I shouldn’t worry so much.”
Help Alzheimer’s Support ensure people living with dementia get the essential services they need this Christmas and beyond by visiting: www.alzheimerswiltshire.org.uk
